What Defines Us

What Defines UsSometimes doors close. Sometimes we have to let go. Sometimes we need to let things come to an end. These words of wisdom may sound completely cheesy, and easier said than done, but they’re very important to remember.

What Defines UsIt’s simple really. Just cry your heart out, cut yourself some slack, embrace the next morning, and then lean back, take a breather and collect your thoughts. Sometimes it takes a day of despair to accept a situation and see things much more clearly, more realistically. Things change, time passes, people come and go – we’ve all been there. Sooner or later there comes a point in our lives where we fall – personally, professionally, emotionally. But what defines us is how well we rise after falling (If you ever wondered where the inspiration for my blog name came from, here it is).

What Defines UsNobody wants to hit rock bottom, but if it happens, use the situation as an opportunity to pick up the courage to take a risk and change the direction of your life….things can’t get that much worse anyway, can they? It’s important that we learn from mistakes and cherish all experiences we make. Life goes on, and there’s no point in wallowing in self-pity when we hit a bump in the road, hoping the problem will just go away if we cry hard enough.

What Defines UsI genuinely believe in the saying that when a door closes, a window opens. The trick is to see that window opening, use it to start a new chapter, and thoroughly enjoy it. The bad days are part of life. And I’m not just saying that, I really know what I’m talking about. Every time I went through a rough patch (there were about 2.5 of those in the past 20 odd years) I used it to turn my life around completely. If things hadn’t gone down south from time to time, who knows whether I’d ever taken any risks and be where I am now.

What Defines UsIn retrospect, I can honestly say that I’m glad things didn’t always work out for me. It’s the rough patches that are the hardest – for obvious reasons – but they make life interesting and challenging. And who doesn’t love a good challenge?

What Defines Us

The Look

Flanell – Uniqlo (similar here)

Trousers – Zara (similar here)

Boots – River Island (similar here)

Duster – Zara (similar here)

Scarf – VYVYN Hill

Sunglasses – Ray-Ban

(Pictures by Marlene

  • http://www.inspiredsentiment.blogspot.com Reshma

    This post totally resonated with me. I’ve hit a couple of rough patches in the past 30 years as well…. some I haven’t handled as well as I could have… but all of them have led me to the person I am today. It’s not always sees to remember that another door will open… but somehow you just have to be patient and it will open when you least expect it!

    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thanks for sharing your story Reshma! Your last sentence is very important to remember. It may take a while until another door opens, but it will happen πŸ™‚ xx

  • Ashlee

    Love how this is flowing in the wind!!


    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thanks Ashlee! The scarf is about twice as long as I am tall, but I love it πŸ˜€ xx

  • http://www.reveriesanctuary.com/ shanaz@ReverieSanctuary

    “Nobody wants to hit rock bottoms, but it happens…” This line echos so much truth. It’s the human condition. We learn a lot through the rough patches and I like that you bring this gem of wisdom out into the open as it can be buried under the layers of suffering. I like that I now know the meaning behind your blog’s name, hehe! Thank you for sharing sweetie. BTW, your outfit is super sleek and the peek of color in your plaid top, how very strategic, Jasmin πŸ˜‰ xo Love!

    Shanaz | Fashionista NOW

    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thanks for reading sweetie! I myself tend to pitty myself a little too much when things aren’t going as planned, but I’m slowly but steadily getting better and better at identifying all the opportunities that come with the hard times πŸ™‚ xx

  • http://www.jonthegold.com/ Jonathan Zegbe

    hmmm I totally agree with you said ” sometimes we need to let tings come to an end” TRUE TRUE!!!

    i had a very nice read on your blog today. And it was inspiring , well I feel the same way right now. Im in a place where i want to have obstacles becaues I know that it will make me stronger. πŸ˜‰

    and oh yeah super cool style πŸ™‚ haha

    Cool post!
    New Look on Le blog: REVERSING WALY

    Greets Jon

    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thanks for your sweet comment Jon! I’m super happy you found the post inspiring…that’s one of the best compliments a blogger can get πŸ™‚

      Jasmin xx

  • http://www.junepaski.com/ June Paski

    I love the words “It’s important that we learn from mistakes and cherish all experiences we make” I’m agree about it hoe difficult it’s we should try to not do our mistake again. btw, I love your checkered shirt, I want the red ones πŸ˜€

    xxx June

    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment June! Glad you enjoyed the post and the pictures πŸ™‚ xx

  • http://365hangers.com/blog/ 365hangers

    Love everything about this post!! Your style is perfect and you’re so right, you just have to pick yourself up and keep going. Love it!!

    xx 365Hangers

    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thanks a million for the sweet comment! It makes me incredibly happy that you liked the post πŸ™‚ xx

  • http://www.sugarpopfashion.com/ Stella

    Awesome look! I love your style so much!!

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    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thank you sweetie! You’re the best πŸ™‚ xx

  • http://voxofvanity.wordpress.com/ Andraxela13
    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      That’s so sweet of you! Thanks Andraxela πŸ™‚ xx

  • Tailored and true

    Gorgeous look! I love the way your scarf is flowing!


    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thank you! The scarf is great, isn’t it? πŸ™‚ xx

  • Mary MarΓ­a

    Wonderful!! Enjoy your day, dear!!


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    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thank you Mary! You too πŸ™‚ xx

  • fashionillustrationsbymc

    those words are not cheesy at all, they are what I needed to hear right now, perfect timing!


    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      I’m glad you enjoyed reading my article! Warm hugs xx

  • http://www.felinecreatures.com/ Feline Creatures

    Very inspiring Jasmin! I agree we all fall sometimes and it’s really how we pick ourselves up afterwards that define our character. Something I really need today so thank you for that thought! I love how you paired the plaid shirt with other neutral hues as it truly brings out the details. Looking chic as ever babe! Hope you have a great rest of your week! πŸ™‚ xo~ Lena


    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Glad you enjoyed reading the post Lena! I’m sending you a big fat bear hug from Berlin to Chicago! xx

  • Elena Dal Maso

    What define us is the the way we raise after a KO and what we learn from that. You’re right, people come and go, we stay a while. So: a big door is opening in front of you, that’s life:)))
    A big hug from Italy!


    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thanks so much for your sweet comment Elena. You’re absolutely right πŸ™‚ xx

  • http://www.theavantguardian.com/ THE AVANTGUARDIAN

    Our rough patches define us, who we are and who we are going to be. In a sense, it makes us more ‘us’, more real. I like your approach of turning things around completely when you hit rock bottom. In my opinion, that’s a kickass way of dealing with things (and much better than sitting around, waiting for things to turn around).

    Great post πŸ™‚


    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thanks for your sweet comment boo! Turning things around is the only way really. Or you just accept being unhappy (which nobody should ever do!) πŸ˜‰ xx

  • http://www.lerablogs.com/ Lera

    I love your outfit here, it’s sort of a dark romance. I like the pictures, and I agree with what you said. You never know what’s going to happen, if you think something’s bad now, 5 years from now it could be the best thing that happened, etc.


    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thanks for the sweet comment Lera – you’re so right. I’m glad you like the look as well πŸ™‚

  • http://messagesonanapkin.blogspot.com/ Marlen

    A hundred times yes to this. Honestly, I don’t think any thing can really be *that bad* unless someone dies on you. If a dream doesn’t work out, if a job fails, if a relationship fades- those are all things you can pick yourself back up from. And they just veer you into a new direction. I think the terrifying thing is the not knowing how things will end up, but it’s not the end until everything is alright πŸ™‚ Also, this post was like the moment you come across a book’s title in one of its chapters- “so THIS is what it’s all about!!” haha

    xo marlen
    Messages on a Napkin

    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Amen to that girl! I never feel as inspired to make my life better and try something completely new and untested as when things are going down south…xx

  • #byLily

    AMEN! Beautiful written. I couldn’t agree with you more. That’s life I guess.. If it gives you lemons, make lemonade! It really defines the person who we are today. I guess I always hold on to the thought of after the rain there will be sun shine.

    Sending you some digital hugs! These photos makes me smile!! You look stunning babe!

    X Lily

    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thank you sweetie! I’m so glad you enjoyed reading the post. Yeah…when things aren’t going well, it’s always hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but once you realise it’s an opportunity to make your life better, a rough patch can be the most inspiring thing πŸ™‚ xx

  • AF

    If there is something i learn with age that was one of the most importante things πŸ™‚


    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Yupp…same here πŸ™‚ xx

  • http://www.bibigoeschic.com Bibi

    Wise words.. You are definitely so right, it’s the tough times that turn your life around for better! I’ve experienced it too, and now I’m happier than ever πŸ™‚ And beautiful outfit x


    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Exactly! Constant bliss is good, but it won’t make you experiment with new paths and opportunities. xx

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    love the look πŸ™‚

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    • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

      Thank you sweetie πŸ™‚ xx

  • Ivana DΕΎidiΔ‡

    Rough times are always hard when we go trough them, but they can teach us a lot. You’re absolutely right in saying that how we handle thing when we fall is what defines us (nice to know what is behind the name of your blog btw) …in my life I have already had to start over a few times and certainly
    it is what has defined me.

    I really love this all black outfit…it kind of remind me on Matrix:) spectacular photos!

    • Ivana DΕΎidiΔ‡

      not really all black…I did notice the blue tartan shirt.

      • http://whatdefinesus.com/ Jasmin

        Hehe…no worries! Totally, every time I feel like my life is going in a very wrong direction that isn’t making me happy I feel so inspired and challenged to make things better. When things are going too well, there’s usually no reason to try something new and exciting. xx

        • Ivana DΕΎidiΔ‡

          so true!